Clockwork Top Hat Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 I'm the unstable one in my relationships - except for one where we basically where both screwed up. Not a good match. On a lighter note I've been revamping my walls shame it's the filthy guild 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PraetorDragoon Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 I'm the unstable one in my relationships - except for one where we basically where both screwed up. Not a good match. On a lighter note I've been revamping my walls shame it's the filthy guild Cool poster though Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rurouni Benshin Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 1. I'd prefer hotels to staying with relatives too. And those are my OWN relatives. She's normal on that point. 2. That's my problem too, hence the dating resume idea. I list all my character flaws, lack of dating experience, etc. If she can deal with seeing what I look like on paper, then fine. A little different when you're on a trip to see your SO's relatives though... My guess is that she probably has anxiety problems when faced with social situations? Probably due to the level of expectations (spoken or otherwise)? I dated a girl who was like this too, and it did bother me, and due to my inability to cope with it properly, this also led to more problems between us. It's hard... And I sympathize with people who have problems coping with anxiety. As for being the SO of a person with these types of problems, it all just boils down to how patient you are with them, and to what length you're willing to go to help them cope. Of course, KNOWING how to cope with them makes a big difference too. My ex and I were never able to find that middle ground, but from what I've heard, she lives a happier life now, as do I. At the very least, I can take what I learned from that experience, and grow from it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dustcrusher Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 I was going to launch into a long rant about the whole "Bitches be crazy" thing, but I think I'll skip it. The TLDR version is that I hate the phrase - it's a hyper-efficient way to simultaneously dehumanise women and trivialise their traumatic lived experiences by wrapping them in sneering gender-essentialism. It's a catchy, flippant phrase, but do consider the mentality you're reinforcing when you deploy it. Most women are sensible, well-adjusted people despite the harassment, abuse and constant scrutiny they experience as the normalised background to their lives, not to mention the social systems and narratives which exist purely to coerce and frighten them into controlled patterns of behaviour. "Bitches" is pretty much gender-neutral these days. I know dudes who are way, way bigger bitches than any woman (and before you ask, they are straight, in case you're looking for an excuse to accuse me of homophobia). I actually have a clue about what women have to deal with just for their gender every single day (well, as much as I can considering I'm a dude, anyway). Please don't assume I'm one of those moronic MRA jackasses who pretends that what they do is about anything but them losing their gender privileges, OK? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dustcrusher Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 Eh, whatever. Not the first time someone has talked down to me. I'm used to it. Between my appearance and my tendency to get lost in thought or be extra hazy if last night's sleep was anything but perfect, people assume I'm a bouncer stereotype, minus the Joisey, Noo Yawk, or redneck accent. Sometimes I get to surprise them- that's always fun. One of my favorite wrestlers is Kane. I'm not nearly as big as he is, but we are both hosses that are really huge nerds (he's a big video game player and I saw a recent picture of him checking out the Dr. Who set while in the UK). I can relate to that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dustcrusher Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 On a related note, if I could draw worth a damn, I'd love to do a miniatures-game-specific "let's make her outfit more practical" like people are doing with comic book characters. I could have a damn field day with Relic Knights Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victoria Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 I can't decide if I should go to the funeral of this guy who died at work. He was a super nice awesome guy, and his wife sent me a card when I got cancer, and another card for easter. I didn't know him super well, but I'm mega bummed he died. He was funny. He used to call up his wife and sing to her on the phone during his lunch breaks. And write terrible batman fan fiction! But I only know that part because I googled him. I'm worried that since I didn't really know him or any of his family that its not appropriate. I dunno. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirial Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 In your opinion, is the increase in affected rate due to the circumstances of modern society, or just the fact more people are diagnosed with it? I have a theory regarding things like that due to genetics and developmental circumstances. Keep in mind I don't "read" scientific or medical journals or publications Both, I gather. More information and more complex lives means more things to worry about. Increased attention to such issues increases the rate of diagnosis. I think most people, if not all people experience some sort of anxiety disorder in their lifetime. It's just a matter of 1) how you handle it and 2) how extreme each individual case may be. I liken it a lot to dealing with stress, even though there is a distinct difference between the two. We all experience anxiety. Whether it's a disorder depends on the ability to deal with it already. Once one could classify it as a disorder, it's clear you cannot deal with it. She has General Anxiety Disorder. It's not just "oh hey she gets nervous about stuff." It's "panic, red alert, we're gonna die" over a lot of stuff. That's a tough one. Hard to treat. Not like arachnophobia where you can just hurl people into tubes full of spiders. Can't hurl people into everything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victoria Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 Eh, whatever. Not the first time someone has talked down to me. I'm used to it. Between my appearance and my tendency to get lost in thought or be extra hazy if last night's sleep was anything but perfect, people assume I'm a bouncer stereotype, minus the Joisey, Noo Yawk, or redneck accent. Sometimes I get to surprise them- that's always fun. One of my favorite wrestlers is Kane. I'm not nearly as big as he is, but we are both hosses that are really huge nerds (he's a big video game player and I saw a recent picture of him checking out the Dr. Who set while in the UK). I can relate to that. Also, if it was me talking down to you, I didn't mean to do that!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirial Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 I can't decide if I should go to the funeral of this guy who died at work. He was a super nice awesome guy, and his wife sent me a card when I got cancer, and another card for easter. I didn't know him super well, but I'm mega bummed he died. He was funny. He used to call up his wife and sing to her on the phone during his lunch breaks. And write terrible batman fan fiction! But I only know that part because I googled him. I'm worried that since I didn't really know him or any of his family that its not appropriate. I dunno. In your shoes, I'd go. Make of that what you will. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rurouni Benshin Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 I can't decide if I should go to the funeral of this guy who died at work. He was a super nice awesome guy, and his wife sent me a card when I got cancer, and another card for easter. I didn't know him super well, but I'm mega bummed he died. He was funny. He used to call up his wife and sing to her on the phone during his lunch breaks. And write terrible batman fan fiction! But I only know that part because I googled him. I'm worried that since I didn't really know him or any of his family that its not appropriate. I dunno. I would go as well. You may not have known him well personally, but you did share some happy moments with him, and I think his family would appreciate knowing that he had a positive impact on your life, however small it may have been. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dustcrusher Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 Yeah, I'm with Ben and Dirial. There's no reason you can't go, for exactly the reasons Ben said. And no, you didn't talk down to me. You talked to me the way one adult talks to another. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirial Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 Dancing! Bye, people. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PraetorDragoon Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 Still more impressive than my dancing skills. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rurouni Benshin Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 That's actually what Benshin looks like when we go to the club... I wish I were joking Then it would stand to reason that I'm a better dancer than at least one other person. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dustcrusher Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 I have a long sleeved polo that's we call the Steve Shirt because it's pretty close to the same colors. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rurouni Benshin Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 In his defense, he is only 13. I would hope since you have 22 years on him, you'd be somewhat better I'll take what I can get. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rurouni Benshin Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 That's what she said. And indeed she did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PraetorDragoon Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 In his defense, he is only 13. I would hope since you have 22 years on him, you'd be somewhat better Why does this 13 joke stuck? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PraetorDragoon Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 Not entirely sure. I don't even know how old you really are, actually. 23. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PraetorDragoon Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 Much better than 13. Yup Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PraetorDragoon Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 Now that Dirial is gone for the evening, guess who has to stay 4 hours late on a sweltering summer Monday evening Benshin? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rurouni Benshin Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 Benshin? BWAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAA!!!!!!!!!!!!@12@!@!@!!@!111@@@@1!!@12!@2!!! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PraetorDragoon Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 BWAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAA!!!!!!!!!!!!@12@!@!@!!@!111@@@@1!!@12!@2!!! ................I take that as a yes? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rurouni Benshin Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 Kidding aside, if it weren't for the fact that I hadn't seen my son since Friday, I would stay late. I'll gladly take a half day off in the middle of the week in lieu of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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