I pretty much agree with Kel. I love to paint minis and see painted minis, but I know how real life can intrude and prevent someone from getting some painting done.
I REALLY encourage my friends to paint, even when they don't paint well. Be supportive and they'll get it done as their time and interest allows. It doesn't really bother me at all to see an unpainted force across the table from me, but I certainly prefer it.
If someone is in it for the competition only, that's their choice. I can find my own ways to have fun (like completely spoiling their strategy through lunacy or mad smack-talk).
Aaron